‘Seeing her visibly shaken was just awful’: Reddit applauds user for shutting down inappropriate comments from a family member
Reddit r/Amitheasshole post Details how one man stood up to his girlfriend when his uncle made inappropriate comments and got the hand at a family event. Instead of cleaning him with a brush, he contacted him publicly and put him against his other family members.
Red flags
The original poster (OP) explained that his uncle started with complex compliments dedicated to his girlfriend, Kate, saying things like “Wow, you are very beautiful for him.” It was worthy of praise, but then escalated with explicit predators, such as “I would kidnap you again a day.”
Besides verbal notes, the uncle was also physically inappropriate, put his hand on the back of Kate, touched her arm excessively, and he fell closely when speaking to her. Although Kate tried to clean it with a brush, she later confirmed in OP that she was uncomfortable.
For OP, “Vision [his girlfriend] She shook clearly, “The last straw was. It was out of the line to embarrass him.
I wanted to understand a familiar reverse reaction
One of the frustrated things about situations like this is the number of times mistake The person is reprimanded. As one of the Reddit comments also pointed to “NTA (…) Your uncle was the person who was inappropriate, and you are completely appropriate, stop his behavior to protect your girlfriend. What your uncle (and every other person) failed to realize is that there was an imbalance Balance in power here.
Why is a speaking against inappropriate behavior often as worse than the same behavior? This is not just a family conflict, it is a reflection of a greater societal issue. The male OP sons refused completely the situation, indicating that Kate was the only one that was disturbed by they The partners did not complain. But the fact that others may tolerate inappropriate behavior does not make it acceptable. Kate’s inconvenience was real, and the intervention in OP was the right thing to do.
Silence is permission to crawl
It is fresh and frankly, seeing a man who publicly defends his partner against a family member like this. Often, people hesitate to call bad behavior, especially when the perpetrator is a person who is supposed to respect him. But silence is mainly permission. As long as people look in the other direction, crawling like this will continue to pay the borders.
This is the first time that OP’s uncle behaves in this way. Persian behavior does not develop overnight. It is a pattern that flourishes in environments that are not verified. This is why you call it, especially in front of others, very important. He not only stops behavior at the present time, but also sends a message that it will not be tolerated with this type of behavior.
Ruling
Anyone still wondering whether OP is wrong, let’s be clear, no. It was definitely no idiot. In fact, doing what more people should do. Women are conditional that they are polite and avoid conflict, which often leaves them stuck in uncomfortable or even unsafe situations. It is up to the people around them to confess when there is something wrong and enter.
Even OP, if you read this: well. I saw the inconvenience of your girlfriend, stood up to her, and did not let the pressure of your family dominate you. The world needs more men like you.
